Why do we do this to ourselves?

I have a friend (no really, it's not me) who is in the midst of a romantic conundrum. She has someone who she dated for about 4 years, and last year he told her essentially that it wasn't going to work, that he couldn't "love her consistently", whatever that means.

Now, isn't it easy for us to sit and say, "Well, it didn't work out, too bad, move on"? This is no dummy we're talking about here -- she's a super woman, very smart, witty, aware, attractive... if she didn't live 1500 miles away... well, let's not go there... LOL

But she has gone out with this guy to dinner, the theater, etc. in the last few months, and feels "maybe" vibes. Even though he's seeing someone else. Again, isn't it easy for us looking in to say "for God's sake, wake up!" But no, she wants to try and see if the vibes are for real. Sounds nuts, right?

Wellllll, not so fast. Number one, I try hard (and sometimes fail) not to judge people for the simple reason that I am not them. I don't know everything that went in to her feeling the way she does. Number two, haven't we all done something like this or something similar? I know I have pined after a "lost love" that was one-way. and tried to extend it beyond all reason.

That's it. "reason". Who is truly "reasonable" in matters of the heart?

As much as we hate to see friends hurting, we can't really prevent it, can we? All we can do is try to make a point here or there to maybe get our friend to see what we see, and to be there with a hug, a shoulder, and some chocolate when shit goes down. Because the time will come when we're going to do something stupid that our friends warned us about, and the last thing we need is "I told you so!"

--Curt

A very interesting blog

http://indexed.blogspot.com/

Danger! Very addictive...

And poignant, and funny, and true, etc.

Another webcomic

www.questionablecontent.net

The writing and art have to be good to get me into a "slice-of-life" comic strip about emo/goth 20-somethings (massively oversimplifying there).

But this is one great comic. Jeph Jacques is the author, and damn if he doesn't have me caring about the characters, and laughing on almost every strip.

Well done, sir. I've spent the last couple of weeks reading through the archive twice (he's up to over 1100 strips now), and all I have to do is wait for my eyes to stop bleeding.

--Curt